How To Be Vulnerable In A Society Based On Form


The Secret To Opening To The Universe Without Fear

In On Exactitude In Science Jorge Luis Borges writes about an empire obsessed with exactitude in the science of cartography. Their obsession was such, only a walkable, 1:1 map would suffice. The map was so exact, it was a life-sized copy of the empire itself.

People could live and work inside the map. As they continued to develop it, they began to forget the original empire. Finally one day, nobody remembered the empire.

One of the many risks of exactitude, is the possibility of getting lost in the creation itself.

Personally, I believe we now live in a society that’s lost in its own creation. We’ve created beliefs, countries, religions, and institutions that we continue to develop for future generations. We are immersed in them so much, the reference to the original version of humanity has been lost.

Along the process of developing our creations, we became a sophisticated society where form is the norm. That is to say, the way things are perceived is more important than the things themselves.

People focus on pretending rather than being and there lies the problem with vulnerability. We’ve all been pretending for so long we’re afraid to be judged and excluded for showing who we really are.

Why are we afraid? Ernest Becker believed it’s our fear of death. In ancient times, people that were alone got eaten. His book “The Denial Of Death” is a must if you seek to understand how our fear of death drives so much in our lives.

In a formless world, we would just be; there wouldn’t be a need to pretend. In today’s society, however, you have to play the game if you want to be in it. In Silicon Valley Has a Vulnerability Problem, Maren Kate writes:

“Opportunity comes to those who open themselves up to the Universe.”

She couldn’t be more right. In that high-tech/corporate context, however, how can you be vulnerable and show your True-Self if you are to be judged?

Turns out we’re all suckers for authentic people. People that are not afraid of being themselves. Why? Because we would like to be like them. The question then becomes how do they pull it off? The answer is, they have found a form through which they can express their vulnerability and their True-selves.

There is always a form in which you can stay true to yourself without compromising your integrity. Rumi said,

“The cure for the pain is the pain.”

In the same way the solution to be vulnerable in a society based on form is form itself. Vulnerability is the foundation, form is the key.

How do you achieve YOUR form? Practice. Practice. Practice.

Practice allows you to master form without loosing yourself to it. A true swordsman is the one who learns to wield a sword but doesn’t become attached to it. He unlearns each sword he uses in order to focus on his technique rather than the swords themselves. Mastering form is the difference between living in the map versus observing it without becoming it.

Just like there are infinite forms to say “I Love You” there are infinite forms to express vulnerability and stay true to your Self. Practice makes perfect.

Ultimately, meditation is a great to path to self-realization and vulnerability. It’s a tool to train the different aspects of your being. Its purpose is to enable you to reach your center of consciousness or Atman, as it’s known in yogic tradition. Once all aspects of your being are trained, tapping into your True-Self becomes instinctual. Then, in Taoist words, there are no illusions left in your mind and no resistance in your body. Don’t think about your actions; let them flow from the core of your being.

Have you tried meditating and failed? Check out my article “What’s Wrong With Your Meditation?”

“The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.” –Albert Camus